Not Ready to Graduate

Author: James

IN Genoa

Personal

Exchange Students

Soccer games, Friday night football, Vacation Bible School were what we did with our children. Picking up and dropping off, sleep overs, and projects for class were everyday occurrences. Coming home preparing dinner or eating out as a family sharing the days activities were our lives. In the moment we did not realize how much these times would mean to us. Just the excitement of earning that perfect score or meeting a new classmate would exhibit so many emotions for our kids. So many smiles and a few tears were shared around that kitchen table. Then the moments, days, and years passed, and it was just my spouse and I at the dinner table. The kids had grown up and moved on to starting their own families. The quiet was truly deafening.

I was on social media one day and saw a bit about an exchange student in our area needing a home for nine months. This piqued my interest. WE had hosted an exchange student while our kids were in high school, and it was a pleasant enough experience. What about doing it again? Are we too old? Do we have anything to offer? Are we fun enough?

I responded to the post and waited. It was not long at all before the coordinator reached out and laid out the process. I had forgotten all that was necessary and was hesitant about getting on that wagon again. After my husband and I talked about it we thought, let’s do it and see what happens. We could do a short stay with the student staying until Christmas or the entire school year from August to May, we opted for the longer stay. I’m not sure why but the longer stay was what we decided on. We have plenty of room in our house, so we decided not to get just one student, but let’s jump in and do two. Our thinking was, they would have someone their own age and if we were doing one why not just let two enjoy the United States.

The tough decision was now upon us; what countries do we want our students from? The excitement was just now starting to bubble up. We spent a lot of time looking through the database of students wanting to come to the United States. Do we want Europe? What about Asia? South America is always an option? So many decisions. The agency that sponsors the exchange students will not allow two students with the same language to stay in the same home. This made perfect sense to us if they spoke the same language the students would not be speaking with us but with each other.

We decided Asia and Europe were where we would focus our attention. The students were high school age. We thought back on our own kid’s high school experiences and a twinge of negativity came up. What if these kids were wild as a buck? Are certain countries calmer than others? Is a student from one country wilder than others? We analyzed and cross analyzed coming almost to the point of analysis paralysis or over doing it.

On the agency site you get to read about each candidate, a bit about their family, their interests, hobbies, what type of student there are, what they want to gain out of the experience, and their hopes for the future. Finally, we had our favorites, the ones we thought would fit into our little world the best. One from Europe and one from Asia, both 16 years old and both males. We had a male dominated home for our entire lives, so we were going to keep that trend going.

After notifying the agency, the administrative details were coming together. They arranged a time to come out and do a home inspection, chat with us, and look at where the students will stay. They needed references from our friends and background checks. We passed with flying colors. We were able to email the students in anticipation of their arrival, breaking the ice a bit before they came.

The coordinator made all the arrangements for the students’ arrivals and with the school they would attend. We live in a rural area and travel into the big city for our airport! We were so excited! This was like waiting for the birth of a baby!! We had something to look forward to. A new member of our family was arriving. We did not realize how true this was until after they left, and we saw them again, which I will get into later. We made signs, what we thought were our creative genes coming out in order to greet the students at the airport. My spouse held the sign up and Ettore came to greet him. We had one new member. A brief time later we had the other one.

Now that I am writing this after the fact it almost seems surreal. We did not know what to expect but were thrilled with our choices. The students were polite, well spoken, and diligent students making the honor roll during the school year. Each of the teenagers were unique, bringing with them their own sense of pride in their country and an eagerness to learn about ours. They enjoyed after school sports, clubs through school, or other activities. We watched our favorite movies with them, we met new people through them and enjoyed football, art exhibitions, and assisting with proms, and community gatherings.

Our once not so exciting meals became a source of anticipation. What had they done that day? Any new friends? What are they studying? Any new and exciting plans coming up? They would eagerly assist me with preparing dinner or they would do it as a duo and let us enjoy their choices. We had delicious pasta, homemade pizza, mouthwatering ragu, and homemade bread. Another night we would have pho, friend rice, and eggrolls.

As you can tell from the menus we had students from Italy. We had traveled to Italy a couple of times over the years. We knew the Italians are beautiful people on the outside but what we did not know was how they were equally beautiful on the inside. What I have not mentioned was that we enjoyed our Italian students so much we did it two years in a row!! We had Ettore year one and Riccardo year two. These young men were so polite, so respectful, so kind to our animals (yes, we had four dogs), so friendly to our friends and family members. I’ve said a lot of “so’s”! These young men were so perfect for our family!

Fall break, Halloween, spring break were all a part of our lives again. We shared our holiday happenings with them and they eloquently, excitedly shared their traditions with us! We went to New York city and shared the Big Apple showing them our favorite places and explored new ones they wanted to see. The boys would celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas with us! They would assist with cooking, cleaning, and wrapping up details with ease! They spoke perfect English and were an asset to our household. Putting up Christmas decorations, assembling our fake tree, and cutting pumpkins. Cutting the Halloween pumpkins brought on a whole new meaning and was fun again. The creativity was inspirational! Ettore cut several pumpkins I found pictures of online and we proudly displayed them on our front porch. I had friends asked me, where did you buy these. I enthusiastically told them Ettore did them for us.

Our grown kids, friends, and other family members welcomed these young me into our worlds with open arms! During the time they were with us we had two of our children get married and one announced she was pregnant. The exchange students were neatly tucked into our family and shared these special events with us. It was such a sense of pride we announced the photographer for the evening was all the way from Italy. The group was particularly impressed we could do this! On the tables were flowers we had ordered and arranged. The compliments at the events were flowing like fine wine. Let me tell you about the dance moves, Riky was a dancer!! Being an older woman, I didn’t realize I could break leg like I did. Oh, I didn’t really break a leg, I just cut a rug! This young man, Riky, was a dancer!! By the end of the evening, we had a large group on the dance floor with him sharing his moves!

As I mentioned we enjoyed the first exchange students so much we did it again the next year. We would have done it again, but our daughter had a baby and we had to be out of town so much. From the boys we learned about an app called “what’s app.” This lets you text and call free internationally. Since they have gone back to their home countries, we stay connected through this. We text, call, and send videos to teach other.

Two years after the first one arrived, we went to Italy to meet them on their home turf! To say it was an experience is grossly understating how exciting this was. To meet the families of these two young men who were a part of our lives for nine months was emotional. We ate, chatted, and had what I would call family bonding moments.

Finally, the two Italian students who shared our home met each other in Venice. As in all families each child is unique with their own abilities and talents. These two young men with all their uniqueness shared a common denominator, being an honorary member of our clan. They proudly took us around to explore the various sites. They were our translators and traveling companions.

Leaving Italy this time was far different from our past experiences. We had connections to Italy now, we had friends and family there, we had family ties! Ettore and Riky were part of our families.  Their parents had decided to let their sons to come to the U.S. This decision they made in Italy had a tremendous ripple effect on our lives thousands of miles away. We were allowed to borrow their most precious thing for nine months. Our new family unit shared so many experiences with each other. Acclimating to new situations, seeing the same old things through different eyes, living and learning history by retelling the old history to new people, and realizing the world is really exceedingly small. We had taken if for granted graduation ceremonies were walking down the aisle of the gymnasiums, or sixteen-year-olds get their learners permit, or you earn a certain grade point average and complete the number of classes you may graduate. We learned in Italy they do oral exams to graduate from high school, they go on Saturdays, they don’t do the gymnasium celebration, and they don’t get a driver’s license at 16. These fellas were strangers when they came but are members of our family now. As I write this, we are packing for our next trip to see our Italian families. If you are looking for a new adventure to add excitement to your life, consider changing someone else’s life that will directly change yours! I wonder when they coined the phrase exchange students if they really realized how much is actually exchanged!!

We are what we eat

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We are what we eat

We are what we eat is a familiar saying here in the South. From our shrimp and grits to waffles and chicken, what we eat does have a significant impact on who we are!  Over the decades we have seen the concern for overeating reach crescendo levels. With increased waistlines we see potential complications affecting every system in our bodies. Joint problems, digestive issues to include liver disease, respiratory and cardiovascular such as stroke, heart attack, diabetes to elevated risk of cancers such as breast, colon, and endometrial. Lack of exercise, obesity, and unhealthiness are a concern in our country and our community requiring us to take a hard look at what we offer ourselves and our citizens. Health and wellness can be elusive entities requiring a lot of work, determination, and accessibility to fitness activities. We as a community have a bit of work to do to attain better, more optimal health but having access to a recreational center would be a step in the right direction.

What is the state of our nation & Tennessee? What is considered overweight or obese? There are many online tools to help you determine these numbers, but body mass index of 18.5-24.9 is normal weight for ages 20 and older, 25-29.9 are considered overweight, and over 30 BMI is obesity. The National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey found some disturbing statistics related to the state of obesity in the United States. Two out of three adults were overweight or obese, one in thirteen were extremely obese, with children and adolescents demonstrating one out of six considered obese. According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC), all demographics of the population need to strive to meet our weight and physical activity requirements. Twenty-one percent of adults meet the physical activity guidelines, with only 30% of high schoolers getting minimally an hour of physical activity each day (CDC, 2014).   If you narrow the scope to only Tennessee, the numbers look less optimistic. Tennesseans, eighteen and older, 33% are considered obese, with the state having the unenviable title of the ninth highest adult obesity rate in the country. Amongst adolescents, 35% are classified either obese or overweight, with the sad forecasting of today’s children having a shorter life expectancy than their parents.  If you want a good read Google the Center for Disease Control and Prevention nutrition, physical activity, and obesity: Data, trends, and maps (I’ve provided the link below), then click on Tennessee where it gives you the data for the various age classifications for the state.

            The consequences of being overweight or obese are numerous both financially and physically. Rates of diabetes, hypertension, heart disease, stroke, arthritis, sleep apnea, breathing issues, body pain, and cancer are all impacted by our weight and physical fitness levels.  Obesity is one of the major PREVENTABLE causes of chronic diseases. Our mental status is also greatly impacted by our weight and fitness levels. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention “obesity is a serious concern because it is associated with poorer mental health outcomes, reduced quality of life (CDC, 2015, para 2).

From a financial perspective, the numbers are staggering. According to the CDC, $147 billion, with some sources saying this number can be high as $210 billion per year, spent on medical care costs related to obesity in the U.S. Some hidden costs are those associated with absenteeism and decreased productivity, $4.3 billion lost due to absenteeism and obesity. Factor in the costs of increased office visits, ER visits, medications, and diagnostic or treatment expenditures and the financial burden to the states goes even higher.

            With the personal and financial costs being so high, what can we do to reduce these numbers and see a better, higher quality of life? Have a healthy diet, watch what you eat, and so importantly, exercise.  Swim, run, walk, Pilates, Cross-fit, weight-lifting, aerobics, soccer, football, the key is to work toward your optimal weight and level of fitness. Exercise benefits run the gamete from stress relievers, decreased depression, empowerment, higher levels of self-esteem, positive mental outlook, personal growth, to reducing the numerous risks of physical illness. Through exercise we, also, build community, strengthen social interaction, cohesiveness, and teambuilding, all the while making the community of Franklin County more attractive to outsiders wanting to relocate. From seniors in high school to seniors in life, the benefits of exercise are blatantly apparent. Can we afford to forgo a recreational center with so much on the line? We as consumers must educate ourselves and see the benefits outweigh the risk. A healthy community is a happy community!

Sources:

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2014).  Facts about physical activity. Retrieved from, https://www.cdc.gov/physicalactivity/data/facts.htm

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2015). Adult Obesity Causes & Consequences. Retrieved, from https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/adult/causes.html

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2017). Nutrition, physical activity, and obesity: data, trends, and maps. Retrieved from, https://www.cdc.gov/nccdphp/dnpao/data-trends-maps/index.html

National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Disease. (2017). Overweight and obesity. Retrieved from, https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/overweight-obesity

State of Obesity. (2015). The state of obesity in Tennessee. Retrieved from, http://stateofobesity.org/states/tn/

Mediterranean Diet: A Pathway to Health and Well-being

Health and Wellness

Mediterranean Diet: A Pathway to Health and Well-being

Mediterranean Diet: A Pathway to Health and Well-being

The Mediterranean diet is not just a passing trend; it is a time-tested and scientifically proven approach to healthy eating that has been the normal way of eating by people living in countries surrounding the Mediterranean Sea for centuries. This eating pattern, rich in unprocessed foods, such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, beans, peas, and healthy fats, has gained global recognition for its health benefits. Getting back to the basics of healthy eating is renowned for the positive benefits and has gained international recognition as a model for healthy eating.

 The dreaded, restrictive word diet! What exactly is a diet? A diet refers to the food and drink consumed by an individual or group of people. It typically encompasses the patterns of eating, types of foods consumed, and the quantities of food consumed on a regular basis. Diets vary widely based on cultures, geographics, and personal preferences. Diets set the template for our health designed to achieve specific health goals, manage weight, or address dietary restrictions or medical conditions.

One diet that is getting increased attention is the Mediterranean diet. The Mediterranean diet is more than a dietary pattern it is a way of eating, a lifestyle that has evolved over thousands of years and is primarily based on the traditional eating habits of countries bordering the Mediterranean Sea, such as Greece, Italy, Spain, and Morocco. Unlike restrictive fad diets, the Mediterranean diet is a sustainable approach to weight management. The diet encourages the consumption of nutrient-dense foods that are naturally low in calories and high in fiber. The combination of whole grains, lean proteins, healthy fats, and lots fresh produce promotes fullness and reduces the risk of overeating, making it easier to keep a healthy weight. This diet emphasizes the consumption of plant-based foods such as fruits, vegetables, beans, peas, nuts, and whole grains. Olive oil is a key part, replacing other sources of fat like butter or margarine. Moderate amounts of fish, poultry, and dairy products are acceptable, with red meat and processed foods limited. Additionally, the diet encourages the use of herbs and spices for flavoring rather than relying on salt.

The health benefits with the adoption of the Mediterranean diet include reduced risk of heart disease, stroke, and certain chronic conditions, such as cancer, diabetes, arthritis, and frailty. One of the primary benefits of the Mediterranean diet is its positive impact on cardiovascular health. Research shows that this dietary pattern reduces the risk of heart disease and lowers levels of LDL cholesterol (commonly known as “bad” cholesterol) while increasing HDL cholesterol (“good” cholesterol). The diet’s emphasis on olive oil, which is rich in monounsaturated fats, along with its inclusion of fish, nuts, and whole grains, contribute to a heart-healthy lifestyle. The abundance of antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals found in fruits, vegetables, and nuts can help reduce inflammation and oxidative stress, contributing to disease prevention.

Another benefit includes enhancing brain function and reducing the risk of cognitive decline. The Mediterranean diet is associated with better cognitive function and a reduced risk of cognitive decline. The presence of omega-3 fatty acids in fish, as well as the abundance of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains, supply essential nutrients that support brain health. Additionally, studies suggest that the combination of a nutrient-rich diet along with social engagement, a common characteristic of Mediterranean eating patterns, may contribute to improved mental well-being.

The overall prospective outcome of eating the Mediterranean diet way is reduced disease and increased health with a direct impact on longevity. The Mediterranean region is known for its high life expectancy, and the Mediterranean diet plays a significant role in longevity. The anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties of the diet, coupled with its focus on whole foods and minimal processed ingredients, contribute to overall health and well-being. The Mediterranean lifestyle promotes not just healthy eating but also regular physical activity, stress reduction, and strong social connections—all factors that contribute to a longer, healthier life. It is characterized by its high intake of fiber, antioxidants, and healthy fats, while limiting processed foods, red meat, and added sugars. The diet’s success has been attributed to its balanced approach and focus on whole, minimally processed foods, reflecting the traditional eating patterns of the Mediterranean region.

The Mediterranean diet offers a comprehensive approach to healthy eating and has been consistently associated with health benefits. By embracing this way of eating, individuals can enjoy delicious and satisfying meals while reducing the risk of chronic diseases, inflammation, promoting heart health, supporting weight management, enhancing brain function, and increasing longevity. Remember, adopting the Mediterranean diet is not just about following a specific set of rules but rather embracing a lifestyle that prioritizes whole, unprocessed foods and emphasizes balance and moderation—a true recipe for a healthier and happier life.

Embrace the World

Family / Health and Wellness

Embrace the World

For many of us, the transition to an empty nest is bittersweet. The once-bustling household becomes quieter as children leave for college, careers, or their own families. This period, while offering newfound freedom, can also bring a sense of loneliness and a longing for the active days of parenting. However, there is an exciting and fulfilling way to fill this void: hosting exchange students. Opening your home to a young international student can transform your life in unexpected and enriching ways. Here’s why empty nesters should consider this rewarding experience.  

Rediscover the Joy of a Lively Household 

When the last child leaves home, the silence can be overwhelming. Hosting an exchange student infuses your home with new energy and enthusiasm. These young individuals bring with them a zest for life, a curiosity about new cultures, and a desire to engage with their host families. This vibrant presence can revive the lively atmosphere you might miss, offering companionship and a sense of family once again. 

Experience a Global Classroom at Home 

Hosting an exchange student is like opening a window to the world. You have the unique opportunity to learn about different cultures, languages, and traditions without leaving your living room. Whether it’s learning to cook a traditional dish, celebrating foreign festivals, or understanding new customs, the cultural exchange is deeply enriching. Imagine hosting a student from Italy who teaches you how to make homemade pasta and pizza. Or a student from Brazil who teaches you how to dance the samba, or a German student who introduces you to the joys of Oktoberfest. These experiences broaden your horizons, enhance your cultural awareness, and provide endless learning opportunities. It’s a journey of discovery that keeps your mind active and engaged. 

Form Lasting Relationships 

One of the most rewarding aspects of hosting an exchange student is the deep, lasting relationships that often develop. These students come to see their host families as their second home, and the bonds formed can endure well beyond the exchange period. Many host families stay in touch with their exchange students for years, visiting each other and maintaining strong friendships. These connections offer emotional fulfillment and the joy of knowing you’ve made a significant impact on a young person’s life. The mutual exchange of support, care, and friendship is a priceless experience that enriches both parties. 

Revitalize Your Sense of Purpose 

Empty nesters often find themselves searching for a renewed sense of purpose once their children have moved out. Hosting an exchange student provides a meaningful way to fill this gap. You take on a nurturing role, offering guidance, support, and a stable environment for a young person far from home. This responsibility can be incredibly rewarding, giving you a renewed sense of fulfillment. Additionally, the experience of hosting requires adaptability, patience, and empathy. These challenges promote personal growth and keep you engaged, fostering a dynamic and purposeful lifestyle. 

Contribute to Global Understanding 

In today’s interconnected world, fostering global understanding and peace is more important than ever. By hosting an exchange student, you become an ambassador of your culture, sharing your traditions, values, and way of life. This cultural exchange promotes mutual respect and appreciation, breaking down stereotypes and building bridges between different nations. Moreover, the positive experiences students have with their host families often inspire them to spread the message of cultural exchange and understanding in their own countries. Your role as a host can have a ripple effect, contributing to a more connected and harmonious global community. 

The empty nest phase is a time of transition, but it can also be a time of profound enrichment and joy. Hosting an exchange student offers empty nesters the chance to revitalize their homes, experience a global classroom, form lasting relationships, and find renewed purpose. It’s an adventure that transforms your life, filling your home with laughter, learning, and a sense of global community. So, why not open your doors and your heart to an exchange student? The world awaits, ready to be discovered right from your living room.

Under the Scarlet Sky

Literary

Under the Scarlet Sky

“Under the Scarlet Sky” by Mark Sullivan is an engaging and heart-wrenching historical novel based on the true story of Pino Lella, a young Italian boy who becomes an unsung hero during World War II. This novel offers readers a gripping and emotional journey through one of the darkest periods in history, seen through the eyes of a courageous and resilient teenager.

Set against the backdrop of Nazi-occupied Italy, the story begins with Pino Lella as a carefree youth in Milan, whose life takes a dramatic turn when the war reaches his doorstep. His parents, desperate to keep him safe, send him to a monastery in the Alps, where he soon becomes involved in the underground network that helps Jews escape over the mountains to Switzerland. This period of his life is filled with danger and acts of bravery that challenge his youthful innocence and force him to mature quickly.

As the war progresses, Pino is recruited by the German army, a decision driven by his desire to protect his family and his country. He becomes the driver for General Hans Leyers, one of the Third Reich’s most powerful commanders. This position allows Pino to spy for the Allies, providing critical intelligence while navigating the perilous balance of appearing loyal to the Nazis. Sullivan’s depiction of Pino’s internal conflict, his fear, and his determination to make a difference adds depth and complexity to his character.

One of the novel’s strongest points is its vivid portrayal of the harsh realities of war. Sullivan does not shy away from depicting the brutality and atrocities committed during this time, providing a sobering reminder of the cost of conflict. The detailed descriptions of Milan’s bombings, the dire conditions of the concentration camps, and the constant threat of discovery create a palpable sense of tension and urgency.

The relationships in the novel are also well-developed, particularly the bond between Pino and his younger brother, Mimo, as well as his romance with Anna, a maid working for Leyers. These personal connections add an emotional layer to the story, highlighting the human capacity for love and hope even in the direst circumstances.

However, some readers might find the prose somewhat straightforward and lacking in literary flourish. While the storytelling is compelling, the writing style is more utilitarian than poetic, focusing on the events and actions rather than delving deeply into the characters’ inner lives or employing rich, descriptive language. Additionally, there are moments where the pacing feels uneven, with certain sections of the book moving swiftly through time while others linger on specific events.

Despite these minor critiques, “Under the Scarlet Sky” is a powerful and inspiring tale of courage, resilience, and the impact one person can have in the face of overwhelming adversity. Mark Sullivan has crafted a moving tribute to Pino Lella and all the unsung heroes of World War II, ensuring that their stories are not forgotten. This novel is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the enduring hope for a better world.

Oil and Marble

Literary

Oil and Marble

“Oil and Marble: A Novel of Leonardo and Michelangelo” by Stephanie Storey is a captivating historical fiction that delves into the lives and rivalry of two of the Renaissance’s greatest artists, Leonardo da Vinci and Michelangelo Buonarroti. Set in Florence at the turn of the 16th century, the novel paints a vivid picture of the creative, political, and personal tensions that defined this golden age of art.

Storey’s narrative alternates between the perspectives of Leonardo, the seasoned and somewhat enigmatic master, and Michelangelo, the young and fiercely ambitious sculptor. This dual perspective allows readers to gain an intimate understanding of both characters’ motivations, struggles, and genius. Leonardo, known for his diverse talents and unfinished projects, is depicted as a visionary grappling with his own insecurities and the demands of his patrons. Michelangelo, on the other hand, is portrayed as a passionate and somewhat obstinate artist, driven by a desire to surpass his rival and prove his worth.

One of the novel’s strengths is its meticulous attention to historical detail. Storey has clearly done extensive research, and it shows in her rich descriptions of Florence’s bustling streets, the intricate art techniques, and the political machinations of the time. The book also delves into the creation of some of the period’s most iconic works, including Leonardo’s “Mona Lisa” and Michelangelo’s “David,” providing insight into the painstaking processes behind these masterpieces.

The relationship between Leonardo and Michelangelo is central to the story, and Storey adeptly explores the complexity of their interactions. Their rivalry is portrayed not just as a clash of egos, but as a profound and sometimes reluctant source of inspiration for both artists. This dynamic adds a layer of psychological depth to the novel, making it not just a tale of artistic triumphs but also a study of human character and the pursuit of greatness.

However, some readers might find the pacing uneven at times. The novel occasionally lingers on certain details or scenes, which can slow down the narrative momentum. Despite this, the engaging characterizations and the vivid historical backdrop more than compensate for these minor pacing issues.

“Oil and Marble” is a well-crafted blend of history and fiction that will appeal to art enthusiasts, history buffs, and anyone interested in the Renaissance period. Stephanie Storey has succeeded in bringing to life the passion, brilliance, and human frailty of two of history’s most legendary artists, making this novel a compelling and enlightening read.

Mission Statement

Literary

Mission Statement

Purpose: To create a platform that offers personal insight, practical advice, and shared wisdom related to navigating the senior years not ready to graduate the big stage of life. The blog aims to be a source of inspiration, support, and community for other couples and individuals in their later senior years prior to the big graduation.

Audience: Primarily targeting individuals and couples aged 50 and above who are experiencing similar life stages and challenges. The blog will also appeal to younger readers who are interested in understanding and preparing for aging gracefully.